A Flag on Her Coffin

Cpl Audry Rutherford

Corporal Audry Rutherford (Stafford) 1943 in Edmonton

The Flag

She told us many times over the years, that when she died, she wanted a Canadian flag draped on her coffin. She was proud to have served her country, and so, when our Mother passed away, in 2007, we contacted the Legion in Perth, and they were quick to deliver a flag to the visitation room, and place it solemnly over her casket, at the funeral home.

Flag on her coffin

Audry’s casket, Blair and Son Funeral Home, Perth, Ontario, April 2007

The Legion

When a dozen Legion members arrived at the funeral home, before the visitation began, they handed each of us a poppy, and requested that we lay them on top of the flag, at the close of their ceremony.

They marched into the room, to the melancholy strains of the bagpipes, fittingly, as our Mother’s ancestors hailed from Roxburghshire, Scotland. The Legion members, all in uniform, proudly wearing their medals, filed by, and paused to greet each one of our family. These were not young soldiers, but many were in the later stages of their lives, and most were veterans of WWII, like our Mother. They were the survivors, who had witnessed many fallen comrades, but through the grace of God had been spared, and had lived, some burdened with dark memories of the war.

A Patriot

Often, at this time of year, I recall Mother’s quiet patriotism. She was, after all, a first generation Canadian. Her father, an American, born along the shores of the St. Lawrence River, in New York State, and her mother hailed from Huddersfield, England, but Mother, born at the Royal Alexandra Hospital in Edmonton, Alberta, was all Canadian.

She never missed an opportunity to vote in an election, and would remind us that battles were fought and lives were lost, so that we could have this privilege. She embraced freedom of speech, and the freedom to choose one’s religion.

After her funeral, the five of us children, went through her things, and picked a few precious items to bring home as keepsakes. I spotted her journal sitting on top of a pile of books, picked it up, and began to flip through the pages. A small tattered piece of paper fell onto the floor. It was an old news clipping, brown and brittle with age, that she had cut out and saved, many years ago. As I began to read it, I realized how much the words summed up our Mother’s beliefs:


– by – Charles M. Province

It is the Soldier, not the minister
Who has given us freedom of religion.

It is the Soldier, not the reporter
Who has given us freedom of the press.

It is the Soldier, not the poet
Who has given us freedom of speech.

It is the Soldier, not the campus organizer
Who has given us freedom to protest.

It is the Soldier, not the lawyer
Who has given us the right to a fair trial.

It is the Soldier, not the politician
Who has given us the right to vote.

It is the Soldier who salutes the flag,
Who serves beneath the flag,
And whose coffin is draped by the flag,
Who allows the protester to burn the flag.


This story in memory of Cpl. Audry Rutherford (Stafford) R.C.A.F., W.D.


Arlene Stafford-Wilson

Member, Association of Professional Genealogists
Honorary Life Member, Lanark County Genealogical Society
Author of : “Lanark County Christmas”, “Lanark County Comfort”, “Lanark County Collection”, “Lanark County Calling”, “Lanark County Classics”, “Lanark County Connections”, “Lanark County Calendar”, “Lanark County Chronicle”, “Lanark County Kid”, & “Recipes & Recollections”
available at local stores or email: lanarkcountybooks@gmail.com


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